Changing identity is sometimes the best way forward
If you are new to these Weekly Reminders you might like to know that your subconscious mind is accountable for 90% of your daily decisions. If all you do is read this blog (but put nothing into practice), you are already sending a positive message to your subconscious mind. Congratulations! The more similar messages it gets, the better behaviour you will have.
Apparently during the 1930s, a young boy became obsessed with eating sugar. His mother was quite upset with this and tried so many ways to try and stop her son from eating it. However none of them seemed to work, so she decided to take her son to go and see his idol – Mahatma Gandhi, in the hope her son may listen to him.
They walked for miles under the scorching Sun to reach Gandhi’s ashram. There she shared with Gandhi her situation – “My son consumes far too much sugar, will you please tell him it’s bad for his health?”
After listening to the woman patiently for a while Gandhi thanked her for sharing her concerns and told her to return in two weeks.
The mother left a little perplexed and wondered why Gandhi hadn’t told the boy to stop eating sugar.
Two weeks later they returned to visit Gandhi, this time Gandhi looked at the boy and said – “Boy, you should stop eating sugar. It is not good for your health.”
The boy nodded towards Gandhi and said he would do his best to stop eating sugar. The boy’s mother was curious as to why Gandhi needed two weeks to tell this to her son. Gandhi smiled and said – “Two weeks ago I had an obsession with sugar. I needed that time to cut back myself.”
It is true that you can change a habit in two weeks, but it’s not likely to last beyond the two weeks unless something deep inside you changes along the way. Self-discipline is just as effective as having a mother inside your head telling you what you should and shouldn’t do – you might follow the command for some time, but as soon as the rebel inside of you pops out, your mother’s inner voice will lose all its power. If that inner voice was Gandhi’s voice….well that might just carry a little extra power…but it still won’t be long-lasting.
When you want to change a behaviour (that’s what habits really are), you can ask yourself the following questions:
- What behaviour do I want to replace this with? What’s the new behaviour that I want to turn into a habit?
- Who would I need to become in order for this new behaviour /habit to come naturally?
- In what ways am I already like that?
Once you’ve gotten the answers to these questions you just need to reward yourself for becoming more and more like the person you wish to become. A reward can be as simple as dancing to your favourite tune or writing a love-note to yourself or getting yourself a new house plant. Practice embodying your new identity, and celebrate every bit of progress you make. Remember that practice doesn’t make perfect – practice makes habits. Choose your habits wisely and practice your way towards them.
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A love note from your future self:
Remember when you were ten years old? Could you have imagined what your life was going to be like?
If you knew back then, all the challenges you would overcome and all the ways in which you would continue to grow as an adult, what would you have thought?
It takes a lifetime to become the best that we can be. It’s all about enjoying the process!
Love, from your future self.
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