The Wrong Question to Ask



This is what most of us were asked at some point in our childhood. 

“What do you want to be when you grow up?”

Turns out that it’s not the best question to ask.

It is well known that living a full and healthy life is largely influenced by what we breathe, eat and drink. But having a sense of purpose is another determinant of our physical and mental health, as well as a key ingredient for longevity.

  • Having a sense of purpose builds confidence and feeds your self-esteem. 
  • Your sense of purpose is what drives you towards a satisfying future, despite potential obstacles. 
  • Your sense of purpose is a powerful motivator to take good care of your health. Afterall, the healthier you are, the more impact you can make in your lifetime.

Your sense of purpose can be a collection of small things or it can be one major area of passion. Here are some real-life examples that might inspire you:

These are some of the things that give me a sense of purpose:

  • To help people develop healthy eating habits so that they feel full of energy and health
  • To be an inspiring role-model to my children and step-children (by the way, this feels like the hardest one!)
  • To help people gain clarity and self-confidence so that they can bring about their dreams
  • To create a sustainable company which my team loves being a part of (this one relates to my work as CEO of Neolé)

Here are some strategies to help you explore your purpose:

  1. Ask yourself: What are all the small things that bring me joy (big & SMALL)?

  2. Ask yourself: What news topics or events get me all fired up? What can I do to contribute in any small way to potential solutions?

  3. Think of the most recent time you were excited to get out of bed and get your day underway. What were you looking forward to?

  4. Reflect on all the ways in which you already contribute to your family, friends, co-workers, and strangers. What and why do you contribute the way you do?

  5. Create a yearly tradition by scheduling a specific date to revisit these questions. I.e.: Use the upcoming long weekend as an excuse to go on a reflection date with yourself.

  6. Treat yourself to at least one coaching session per year to re-ignite your sense of purpose.

  7. Host a virtual tea party with your most trusted friends. Choose one reflection question for everyone to brainstorm on.

Do you already have a strategy that works for you? Please email me, I’d love to hear about it.

Parenting (and grand-parenting) Tips:

Kids are often asked: “What do you want to be when you grow up?”
In an era of rapid innovations and changing circumstances, where the average college student is expected to change careers an average of 11 times in their lifetime, this question has become wildly outdated. Here’s a better question: “What are all the ways you might like to contribute to the world when you grow up?” There is no right or wrong answer, what matters most is the process of imagining possibilities.

Have a smarter day, a smarter week and a smarter life,

Ginny Santos, your holistic coach.

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A love note from your future self:

Kudos to you for exercising your imagination. In fact, have you realized that every time you read one of my messages, you are sort of time travelling?

Love, from your future self.

Disclaimer: The content contained in this blog is for educational and inspirational purposes only. You should not rely on this information as a substitute for, nor does it replace medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. If you have any concerns or questions about your health, you should always consult with a physician or other health care professional. Do not disregard, avoid or delay obtaining medical or health related advice because of something you may have read on this blog.

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